tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36163290.post7657579269431939856..comments2023-06-15T07:30:56.979-07:00Comments on Alex's Weblog: Help people to help themselvesAlexhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13601555839068658180noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36163290.post-62341384307463017452008-03-18T18:56:00.000-07:002008-03-18T18:56:00.000-07:00yun: Sorry but I think I have to disagree with you...<B>yun</B>: Sorry but I think I have to disagree with you this time.<BR/><BR/>I do agree that "love" is a essential component in human relationships. As a matter of fact, if you can show "love" when you "help" someone out, that's better than "help" without any "love".<BR/><BR/>However, "love" alone doesn't address the problem mentioned in my post. <BR/><BR/>For example, your husband likes to gamble and owe people quite some money. Because you "love" him, you "help" him to pay the debt. However, you haven't done anything else to stop him from borrowing money to gamble again. So, you're not really helping him to help himself.<BR/><BR/>I also disagree that you don't have to "think too much about what your action will do to others". <BR/><BR/>Easy example: you like to hang out with a bunch of people and you feel happy about it. You love your friend and you bring him along to your group since you want him to be happy like you too. However, you don't know that your friend in an introvert and actually hates to have too many people around him. So, in this case, although you love your friend, ignoring the actual actions being carried out can cause harm. <BR/><BR/>Unless your definition of "love" is "sensible love", which in turn leads to effective actions , the word "love" can include "blind love".Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13601555839068658180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36163290.post-71392436966962810732008-03-18T17:40:00.000-07:002008-03-18T17:40:00.000-07:00Maybe you are just over think this. What people ne...Maybe you are just over think this. What people need in this world is not "help;" it's "love." If you shown people "love," they will be changed; if you just "helped" them, of course the result may not be as expected.<BR/><BR/>However, I also believe that, if you are to show love, you will not think too much about what your action will do to others. Love itself is power.<BR/><BR/>Hope you understand what I mean.ah-yunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11879379535792421382noreply@blogger.com